How any man can be a Valentines Hero.
Best case most men are intimidated by Valentines Day. Worst case they
resent it. A lot of men feel like Valentines Day is a lose, lose
proposition. Expectations for romance
are sky high and men as a species are not super comfortable with their
ability to deliver. Some men feel high-jacked by a “Hallmark” holiday.
Men feel pressure to spend a lot of money and compete with the romantic
displays of other men with their women. No surprise, when the
Valentines Day industry encourages this. I saw an ad for flowers
yesterday where a woman talked about receiving a floral super gift at
work that made all the other ladies jealous. Bottom line many men feel
like they are set up to fail. So, what’s a guy to do??? More
importantly, what’s a guy to do that doesn’t cost a fortune?
1. Two flowers. A rose first thing in the morning. They’ll cost you
four bucks a piece at 7/11. Keep them in your car the night before. Give
one to her before you leave the house in the morning and it’ll answer
the question, “Did he remember the special day??” Hold the second flower
back for later.
2. Yes, the celebration should include a meal. That doesn’t have to
mean dinner at the most expensive spot in town. It can be a picnic,
indoors or out. It can be a trip down memory lane, like the place you
went on your first date. It could be lunch at hotel. Whatever it is,
think intimate, vs. expensive.
3. Put pen to paper. Even if you’ve never done it, maybe especially if you’ve never done it, write a love
note. Notice, I didn’t say letter, I said note. The recipe is simple,
three paragraphs. First, a cherished memory you have of times with her.
Second, something you love about her. Third, how she makes you feel.
Sign it I love you, and you’re done. Very important note: Give her this note at dinner or deliver it to her office during the day.
4. Jewelery, or chocolate? Maybe none of the neither. Maybe a gift certificate for a massage
or pedicure - either by a professional, or better yet, maybe by you.
Treat her to something that will leave her feeling pampered and
precious. If you opt to buy them, you’re looking at about $50.00. If you
opt to offer up the pampering yourself, you better follow through,
probably on Valentines evening.
5. Run her a bath. Before bedtime, run her a bath, light some candles
in there, and sprinkle the petals from the last rose in the tub. Done.